My Golden Rules for Spirituality Part 1

With throwing away some old ideals and mindsets with the spirituality community, I feel a lot more free to be who I am. The parts of me that fought and struggled for control and perfection are finally settling down, because they both know they're perfect as they are. Due to the internal struggle I felt like I was cut in half, into the more "pure and enlighten" side as well as the more "dark and rustic" side. However, having these two energies finally met in the middle was the best thing I could ever gotten out of this. Where that clear light and dark turned into many rays of light, making it quite a beautiful show!

With these two energies free to act as they will I felt that I needed to establish some new and timeless rules for myself. Rules that I was afraid of,  hesitate to follow and actively pursue in fears of rejection. Now, however, I'm becoming a whole new me finally deciding what truly works for me and throwing out the rest. No more "what this person or expert" said, I'm deciding what I know is right for me and what feels good.

Since my list and explanations were so long I'm breaking this post into parts, this post being the first one. So without further ado, here is my personal new rules for spirituality!

1. I have to serve myself, not the world

For years I've read that we chose to come here to serve the world and make it a better place. I also heard it personally in that amount of time from my guides, angels and sometimes myself. However, me being wrapped up in only that made me lost sight of who I truly needed to serve first, myself. Because of that, I struggled for years to be this perfect divine light worker healer to serve and save the world. Even though mainstream spirituality (as did I) preach the fact that we came here to this super awesome special mission to help enlighten the world, I'm changing that in my life. I came here to serve and better myself for myself. I'm not making the fact that if I don't drop everything to solely serve the world, I'm being less of a light worker or a person that wants to see this world prosper. If I'm not happy in my own life I have to tend to that, not the world's suffering.

2. The ego is the greatest part of being human (RANT ALERT)

And I love every drop of it. In too many books have I read that the ego was the source of human suffering, our inferior desires for material gain, wealth, our negative emotions, negative experiences and so many other things that goes wrong in life. When I first read about it many years ago, I was pretty put off naturally. I felt rather offended that some yahoo had the nerve to say that my personality was somehow inherently bad. And that if I don't transcend beyond it and it's earthy desires, I'm doomed to have a shitty life. FLAT OUT BULLSHIT.

To me, blaming the ego for an individual's or the world's suffering is like calling a baby demonic because it shits on itself. Bad things happen, it's apart of life. You learn, get better and do better. Hiding away via spirituality on cloud nine pretending that anything less than feeling compassion and forgiveness is apart of this evil force of the soul, only makes you that much unwilling to learn about life.

More over, it's giving too many people excuses for their own downfalls when everyone is hopping on this spiritual bandwagon. The ego isn't some outside force that wants to see you fail. If you're feeling bad, feeling like you're attracting bad stuff, that isn't the ego that's fucking you up, IT'S YOU, YOU ARE THE EGO TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR OWN ACTIONS. Stop blaming your downfalls on this imaginary ego concept, seriously.

The ego is the part of us that makes us human. It makes us feel, see, hear, touch and taste the world we chose to be in. It gives us that spark of life and it's the vehicle that makes living possible. What you think is the ego is just your past hang ups, regrets, frustrations and negative emotions, the kicker is those are gifts. If you decide to face and sort them out you'll find more of yourself as well as more self love.

I've been on the fence with spirituality's definition of the ego for years, and it only made me feel inferior for wanting the things I want. Thus causing me to slow down or halt my success and blossoming as a person within this world, rather than outside of it. Coming to the place where I completely allow myself to want and go after material things only made my life greater. I don't feel bad or impure about being human, so that is a vital rule I'm now fully integrating into my life.

3. Wanting material gain is something I shouldn't be ashamed of

Again, this falls into the whole "ego" concept.

4. Listen to no person, expert, guru or channeled entity if it doesn't resonate

For years I've been following all kinds of spiritual people and entities on my journey. They all had something different to bring and each of them were unique. However, more often than not, I wouldn't resonate with them fully, or something they feel strongly about puts me off or I feel indifferent to. Because of this, I had to learn that I should only follow people I truly resonate with. Since I naturally absorb whatever I'm around, no matter the source (like books, TV, audio) it would clash with my natural beliefs. Thus, causing me to push and pull between what was spirituality "right" and what was "wrong."  

Right now, I basically cleaned out all of my social networks of all the spiritual people I followed, and even more so the experts. That only gave me a lot more breathing room to be and follow my own guidance without interference which is vital.

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I hope you all enjoyed my list and even my rant haha! With that being said, are there specific rules for spirituality that you made for yourself? Do you think it helps you on your journey? If so, I would love to hear about it!

♥♥♥ Inner Child, The Divine Whisperer ♥♥♥